Karen and Randall Smith will never again see their sons smile.
Paula and Jerry Bullard will never again see their daughters brown eyes.
The family and friends of dozens of others will never again see their loved ones because they died in boating incidents on South Carolina waterways from 2010 to 2013.
What can a father say? Randall Smith said about the loss of his 11-year-old son, Drew Smith, who died after a speedboat smashed into the boat the two were fishing from on Lake Murray. Will this help heal my life, which has been thoroughly destroyed?
The Smiths and Bullards told their stories to the families of other victims of boating accidents who gathered Saturday at Pilgrim Lutheran Church in Lexington to honor those who have been lost as a new boating season is about to begin.
The South Carolina Department of Natural Resources reports that there have been 87 fatalities in the four-year period.
Congested waterways seem unavoidable as South Carolinas lakes become more developed and attract a greater number of boaters.
But boating tragedies could be prevented with boater education, wearing life jackets and strengthening the consequences of boating-under-the-influence laws, said Andy Hyman, president of the Lake Murray Association.
Theres always more that can be done, he said.
More to do
Drew Smiths death prompted lawmakers to pass tougher boating-under-the-influence legislation that eventually became known as Drews Law.
The tougher laws have helped, say agents who patrol Lake Murray.
But, as they head into the prime of boating season, boaters should do inspections on their boats and ensure they have all of the correct safety equipment, said Lt. Mark McColman, with the Richland County Sheriffs Department.
He also encouraged using resources, such as the DNR and Coast Guard websites.
Few lake lovers will forget that terrible spring of 2010, when four people were killed on Lake Murray in two boating collisions just minutes apart.
When I lost Kelli, I lost me, said Jerry Bullard, whose 25-year-old daughter died in one of those crashes.
It has taken four years to have the tiniest bit of normalcy in their lives, Jerry Bullard said.
My heart will never beat as strongly or as smoothly as it did, Paula Bullard said.
The pair of fatal crashes that day in 2010 occurred minutes apart, between Susie Ebert and Flotilla islands in the heavily traveled northeastern corner of the lake, near Ballentine. It was the deadliest day on the 47,500-acre lake in recent memory.
Killed in the first wreck were Bullard and a friend, Amber Golden, 24, of Woodville, Ala. Four people on their boat went into the water after being hit by another boat.
Killed in the second wreck, which happened at 11:05 p.m. just 10 minutes after the first were friends Matthew Kyle Howk, 21, of Columbia and Randall Carter, 36, of Irmo. Investigators determined the boat in which they were riding did not have its lights operating as required for nighttime navigation when it collided with another boat.
Both crashes were alcohol-related.
Penalties for BUI include a fine of up to nearly $600, up to 30 days in jail and loss of boating privileges pending completion of safety training. Penalties for felony BUI include from one to 25 years in prison.
During Saturdays service, the names of victims were read aloud and family members stood when the bell tolled for their loved ones.
Life-size cardboard silhouettes surrounded the sanctuary representing those who had been lost. Family members crowded the church, but some of the empty pews would have been filled if those who had died in boating incidents had been there instead of being represented by cutouts.
The Wolfe family stood for Logan Wolfe, who was 23 when he died in October while fishing with friends on Lake Hartwell. Logan Wolfe was sitting on a fishing platform outside of the railing of a pontoon boat when he had a seizure, passed out and fell overboard, said his mother, Carol Wolfe, of Richmond Hill, Ga.
She said if Logan Wolfe had been wearing a life jacket and known that he was not supposed to be outside of the railing on that kind of boat, then it might have saved his life.
She also said there should be safety courses for those who purchase boats.
Boaters have to slow down and think, McColman said, to prevent tragic accidents.
You will never understand how important a moment is until it becomes a memory, Paula Bullard said.