When I was a little boy growing up in Rock Hill, the children in the neighborhood decided to have a wedding. I have never been clear on whose idea it was, but a girl was chosen to be the bride and a boy was chosen to be the groom. There were groomsmen and bridesmaids, and a boy who later became a minister was chosen for that role. Everybody got all dressed up, and the parents — mainly mothers, I’m sure — helped put the clothes together for each child.
It was hailed as a great success, but everyone knew that no one really got married that day. It was all make-believe.
Marriage has never been anything in any society but between a man and a woman. It gives structure to society and has always been encouraged for that reason. Granted, it was occasionally between one man and several women, but the relationship was between male and female.
My point is not to criticize people in same-sex relationships. Perhaps another name could be found — friendship, partnership, relationship, companionship — but it’s not “marriage,” and any effort to make it so is make-believe.
The lawyers and judges and even a few ministers who are trying to rewrite the dictionary are not brave souls blazing a new trail. They are cowards who don’t have the guts to tell people you can’t always have what you want just because you want it. You can pretend, but that’s all.
I’ve always wondered what it is that same-sex couples want to do that they can’t do now. As we found out when the Columbia City Council acted to provide the benefits of married people to same-sex couples, it’s all about the money. It’s none of my business what people do with their lives, but it becomes my business when they want me to pay for it.
Make no mistake: Any lawyer who can torture the word “marriage” after thousands of years to mean two people of the same sex would have no trouble extending that to pets and even inanimate objects. And what’s so magical about two people? The more the merrier. With the imprimatur of the government, don’t be surprised if you’re one day paying pension and Social Security benefits to dogs and cats. In more remote locations, it might be sheep and goats.
The shame is that this is a throw-away issue for so many people who don’t understand or don’t want to understand that the structure and limits of society affect everyone. They apply to everyone. They are part of the foundation of civilization. No parent affirmatively desires for his child to be homosexual.
Call me old-fashioned, but I think our society, our country and our civilization are worth the fight. Won’t you join me?