Inside a Columbia restaurant, tucked slightly back from the road, Bridget Lyles combines grit and faith while preparing hearty soul food dishes, following turbulent times and an uncertain future.

Moving as someone who’s spent years measuring time in shifts and not days, the 51-year-old’s journey from cooking to-go meals in her home kitchen to owning a large soul food restaurant testifies the “American Dream” is alive and well — even for a Black single mother of three.

Ms. B’s Cafe & Grill, located at 511 Bush River Road, is a Columbia eatery offering a classic and robust soul food menu, including fried chicken, pork chops, turkey wings, collard greens, rice and gravy and macaroni and cheese.

Lyles’ inspiration for the establishment stemmed from job loss and a personal declaration: “I’d never work for anybody again.”

With few employees, who are mostly family, Lyles said she does most of the cooking herself, adding that experience and skill allows her to season the food by sight instead of teaspoons.

“I can look at the pot and tell how much seasoning is needed.”

Her dining room is her latest proof of concept — a business built not on venture capital or viral marketing, but on the stubborn arithmetic of survival: feed the family, keep the lights on, try again tomorrow.

It is also, right now, a place trying to hold its ground amid rising food costs, competition and a rocky economy.

A Chick-fil-A opened not far from the front of Ms. B’s in December 2025.

“Ever since Chick‑fil‑A came in front of me, business has been even worse,” Lyles said, describing the slow siphon of customers in a corridor where fast food is a form of gravity.

The slowdown, she added, is seasonal — “around this time of year is the downtime” — but the location doesn’t help.

Still, the kitchen keeps turning out the dishes her regulars come for: oxtails, turkey wings, pot roast, pork chops. And, most of all, pig feet.

“I didn’t know so many people eat pig feet,” she said. What began as a modest batch grew into something like a weekly ritual. “I went from cooking maybe 30 pounds of pig feet to like 120 pounds a week.”

A shoulder injury and a new menu

Lyles did not set out to become the proprietor of a southern soul food restaurant. In 2005, she said, she worked for a janitorial business — until she injured her shoulder and could no longer do the work.

So she pivoted.

She had already come from a family that cooked, she said, but began developing her own recipes.

She tested them on a man she was dating at the time. “He was my guinea pig,” she said. “So I was like, ‘Try this. How you think this taste?’ … He was like, ‘You can sell that.’”

She started small, selling hot dogs, hamburgers and grilled chicken sandwiches in barber shops, car lots and to people she knew — the kind of grassroots economy that doesn’t require a storefront, just reliability and word of mouth. She did that for 10 years, she said, cooking out of her home and delivering on weekends.

At the same time, she worked a full‑time job at UPS, along with — at one point — three others, all while raising three boys as a single mother.

“I was in and out of the house,” she said.

Lyles would come home, cook, make sure her boys ate, checked their homework and would then go back to work. She would return again to get them showered and into bed.

“I was there,” she said, “but they saw me going, going, going.”

As she built her side food business, while juggling jobs, her youngest child was 5, she said; the others were 7 and 8.

“I had to make sure those boys were good and taken care of,” she said.

But she also remembers what the hustle cost.

Her children, she said, started getting into trouble. She wasn’t always attentive — not because she didn’t care, but because she was working and trying to provide. “I missed out on a lot by being that, doing what I did,” she said. “But they appreciate what I did now more than ever.”

$792 and a food truck in the yard

In 2014, Lyles lost her job at UPS after nearly two decades. After being out of work for nearly three months, she said remember how much money left in her bank account.

“I got down to my last $792. I remember that number to this day,” Lyles said.

Relying on the cooking skills she gathered from her childhood, Lyles saw an opportunity.

A friend had a food truck, which Lyles asked be parked in her front yard so she could sell meals. It was a moment that had the texture of improvisation but the stakes of a final exam: make it work, or watch the plan collapse.

From there came a series of stepping‑stones that read like a map of Columbia’s commercial geography: a convenience store on Fairfield Road; later, a small spot in Dutch Square Mall. The mall space was a sub‑and‑salad concept, a compromise dictated by location and constraints.

But her customers wanted what they’d been buying from her all along.

“They didn’t want subs and salads,” she said. “They wanted food.”

So she adapted again. “On Sundays, I made my cold bar a hot bar.”

‘The money is not always there’

Over and over, Lyles returned to a point that emphasized her passion for cooking despite life’s challenges: if you want to step into a dream without certainty, you have to love it.

“Make sure you’re passionate about what it is you’re setting out to do,” she said. “Make sure you have a love for it and not doing it for the money, because the money is not always there.”

Even when money comes in, she said, it goes right back out.

“I’ve been dedicated to this for 20 years because I love it,” she said. “It’s not because I’m making money off of it … It’s because I love what I do.”

She has her own definition of perseverance, too — one that acknowledges the daily grind rather than romanticizing it.

Asked whether she had experienced a moment of fear so big it nearly made her quit, she didn’t single out one crisis.

“That’s every day,” she said. “I live that every day, but keep pushing forward.”

She described waking up and losing hope, losing faith — then arriving at the restaurant and finding it again in the act of showing up. What pulls her back is responsibility: employees, family, people who depend on her.

“If I give up on me, I’m giving up on everybody,” she said. “I can’t do that.”

Her anchor, she said, is her faith in God. Her support is her family — including a sister she joked she doesn’t always get along with.

“We don’t like each other, but we love each other,” she said.

‘I lost them and I found me’

Lyles said she remembers the day she decided she would never again work for someone else.

It was 2014, after UPS let her go after 18 years of service.

“I said I never worked for anybody again,” she recalled.

Years later, a former UPS supervisor came to her restaurant and recognized her she said. His wife loved the oxtails; he’d been buying them weekly, she said, without realizing the cook was his former employee.

When he finally saw her behind the business, she remembered his expression.

“His eyes got big,” she said. “It’s like, ‘Oh, this you.’”

She told him yes — and then, with the kind of hard gratitude that comes from having been pushed out of one life into another, she offered a startling line.

“Thank y’all for letting me go,” she said.

She paused, then added the meaning she’d made from the loss.

“I lost them and I found me.”

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